Comments on: About the post that disappeared (and reappeared again.)

By: Shannon

Shannon — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 20:06:12 +0000

Maggie,
This whole site is incredible and powerful. You really are an amazing advocate for those who have lost their voice by empowering them to use it again.

Thank you for your comments here about the Chris Brown/Rhianna case. I appreciate what you had to say and the boundaries you have created here.

The Chris Brown/Rhianna case has frightened me so much because of the very public way that Rhianna’s choices have been criticized, questioned, and even ridiculed in the blogosphere as well as in traditional media outlets. I agree with you that other victims may hear and internalize those messages and thus feel even further isolated. I would add that abusers count on it and even use those public statements to their advantage. That’s why abusers continue to have so much power — because, we, as a society, still haven’t reframed the question from “Why doesn’t she just leave?” to “Why did he do that?” Unwittingly, we give abusers ammunition when we question victims’ choices because we reinforce every message the abusers have ever given their victims about the violence being the victims’ fault.

Thank you again, Maggie, for this incredible gift to victims and survivors. As a survivor myself, I can’t even express how much this means to me.

By: ilinap

ilinap — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:28:24 +0000

My post is up at Deep South Moms on this topic. http://svmomblog.typepad.com/deep_south_moms/2009/03/nickelodeon-thinks-using-your-fists-makes-you-cool-rtp.html

Ilina

By: sam {temptingmama}

sam {temptingmama} — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:06:55 +0000

Thank you for the link to my post Maggie.

For the record, as you know, I strongly believe in what you’re doing here and I stand behind each and every decision you make.

Posting the affidavit was a good thing to help people realize that violence can effect everyone regardless of your fame, fortune or family unbringing. Having money or power does not make someone less susceptible or scared.

I pray she finds the strength she needs to free herself of this situation – the same prayer I have for all of those who are in such a situation.

xox

By: Rachael

Rachael — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 07:18:40 +0000

Thank you for reposting it and for posting this. I think it’s really important to share it (in fact i’ll be sharing it later this week too) because people see the stories and blow it off, but if they could read the report, it’s truly terrifying. Thanks for just everything – this web site is amazing.

By: Fran

Fran — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 04:09:14 +0000

I support your thinking on this.

By: Leah

Leah — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:04:54 +0000

This was beautifully written. And truer than anything I have read in a long time.

By: Pgoodness

Pgoodness — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 14:18:03 +0000

I wish we could get her to read this blog, Maggie. I wish she knew that people like you are out there; that the survivor stories are real and inspiring.

And thanks for mentioning that leaving the same comment over and over is ok. I was starting feel like it seemed insincere, but I’m glad it’s not that way.

By: jodifur

jodifur — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 14:12:06 +0000

Thank you for the link to the mamapop post. I’m very proud of that post, especially since it was written on 8 minutes of sleep after my 3 year old had been hurt (not abused, freak accident) at school.

By: pamela

pamela — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:36:17 +0000

you’re the rockstar, maggie!

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 11:46:49 +0000

I wondered what happened to that post. It seemed like an important example to share – I had no idea that’s what happened to Rhianna. But I understand why it was pulled now, and the urge to do so. Thanks for reposting, with the explanation.