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I really appreciate everyone's kind thoughts. When I wrote this, I sent it off then deleted it.. never reading it again, just letting it go out there for others, and it ended up really helping me as well.
I also had the opportunity to work with a counselor who helped me really put a name to the feelings I had regarding the friends issue. I ended all links to them and felt a huge weight off of me. I have been able to better focus on expanding my horizons instead of worrying that I will ever come in contact with the past again and it has done wonders for my security and comfort.
I can't believe how far I have come and I can't believe how far I can still go. The things abusers tell you aren't true, and the things they do to you are only to hold you down so they will always have their emotional or physical punching bag.
I really hope the best for everyone. The last thing I ever said to my abuser was I wished there was a way I could stop him from doing this to someone else. I know that is impossible, but I hope my story... that taking that leap and getting away from people like this will help even one other person. Of everything I have managed to accomplish in my life so far, that would be considered the greatest thing to me.
No one deserves to be hit, and kisses after don't make it better. I'm glad you've broken free, found a counselor and that you are strong in the face of these challenges. Stay strong. You are very brave and a positive role model for others.
This is an amazing story of survival, and I thank you for sharing it here. Congratulations on getting out. If you've come this far, please allow me to humbly suggest one more step. If the one thing that is holding you back from moving on with your life "is some friends of mine still associating with him," then find new friends. If this is hurting you, and they cannot see that, then you need to meet people who do understand and who stick by you. Blessings to you for your continued recovery.
Thank you so much for sharing this. It's mind blowing to me that people who know what he did would continue to be friends with him, but I know it happens. I'm sorry for that, as well as for everything else you had to endure. But I'm so, so, so glad you were able to find a way out. You're strong and amazing and you have a fabulous life ahead of you. I believe it, with all my heart :).
Anonymous, you are so strong. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have been through the same thing with my friends. After I was raped and told all my friends the whole story, some of them even testified against him in court, some of my "best" friends are still facebook friends with him and associate with him and the men that helped raped me. I don't understand it and I have gotten rid of all the friends that have anything to do with him. It is comforting to know I am not the only one.
GOOD FOR YOU! For everything you have done, good for you. What a terrible thing to have to walk live through, and what a great thing that you are gone from it.
I'm sorry about your old friends. There are sometimes no easy answers to why people behave the way they do. But there may be some solace in knowing that now there is room for good people who truly care and have your best interests at heart. To hear you that things are amazing now is good to hear, even from this stranger from the internet. May things continue to get better and better for you every day.
Anonymous, I am so glad that you got out safely and that you are here telling your story today. It took a lot of strength to endure all of that -- you didn't deserve any of it, not a bit.
I hope that your new counselor can help you with the old upset. Don't let anyone steal the light you have inside of you. Wishing you peace and healing, now and in the future.