Comments on: Anonymous

By: JD

JD — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 13:17:33 +0000

Does anyone remember the little toddler, Jamie? murdered by those two young boys a few decades ago. What happened to you and what happened to that toddler is only a matter of degree. It should never, ever have happened. They had no right to lay so much as a finger on you.

When I have kids, I’ll watch over them just for this situation. I don’t think it would ever have occurred to me to do so if I hadn’t read your story. Thank you for posting it; your courage will help me be a more street-wise mother.

By: FreedomFirst

FreedomFirst — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 20:16:51 +0000

It scares me so much to think that older children would be capable of something like that. My husband was also sexually abused as a very young child, often violently; but it was by an adult. I can’t completely understand what kind of damage he’s dealing with, of course, but I know it’s shaped his life in terrible ways just like you said. I’m glad I read this though. I always worry about the influences older kids might have on my toddlers, but it wouldn’t have occurred to me that they might abuse my kids. At their age I won’t leave them alone with anyone I don’t know well, but it’s still disturbing. Most disturbing is the statistic you cited. That makes me want to cry.

By: Simplicity

Simplicity — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 03:06:58 +0000

My heart broke with every line.

So many times I’ve wanted to stand at the top of a mountain and let the whole world know that the people closest to you cannot always be trusted with your children!

I speak from experience.

Our children shouldn’t have to!!

Thank you for sharing this!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:19:12 +0000

Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.

By: Erika

Erika — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 09:06:54 +0000

I want to scoop up your inner little girl and sweep her away from what happened. This story touches me on a level I can’t quite articulate. Thank you for sharing it with us.

By: quin browne

quin browne — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 18:08:13 +0000

your mother listened… when i finally broke my silence about the physical and sexual abuse i endured at the posh boarding school she shipped me off to… she denied it would have happened at a nice catholic school.

meh.

By: Me

Me — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 07:08:10 +0000

Oh, Fran. I’m so sorry you went through that. I can only imagine how you felt.

There’s an article in the NYT dated 3/1 about a girl named Hannah who had a memory fugue and lost 3 weeks wandering NYC not knowing who she was. When questioned about if tis would define her ever after, one of her friends said, “She’s an incredibly strong woman who knows how to deal with a ghost and then release it.”

That’s what I want for all of us.

By: [redacted]

[redacted] — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 05:16:48 +0000

Being a survivor of both domestic violence and years of the man stalking me (long before stalking laws were of help).. I was so shocked to find this site. Oh, what a wonderful place for those that have been through this, can come to find support, and spread the word that it can happen to anyone. Please do not use my name or email.. I just wanted to say thank you… thank you for putting this here..

By: Fran

Fran — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 22:56:02 +0000

I’m reminded of one of my worst parenting experiences ever. I’ll never know what really happened, my daughter was too young to tell. She was only 2. The sitter left her husband – we were suddenly “stuck” with no childcare. He volunteered his sister, who lived next door to him. She (sitter’s sister-in-law) made accusations that the sitter’s brother had been molesting our daughter. We took our daughter to the pediatrician who said “no sign of abuse” but even that was indeterminate. We found a daycare (not necessarily better or safer) far removed from the family drama. It still makes me sick to think about … this was 20 years ago.

By: Me

Me — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:41:24 +0000

Eaton- It really was. Even though it wasn’t the topic of much discussion afterward, to have my mom know my biggest secret and not have the world fall down on my ears meant the world. I’ve been able to be straightforward with my husband about it too, early in our relationship, and I’m glad. I’m not sure he would understand my caution of others with our kids if he didn’t know.

Thanks for being here, you guys. If you have stories, they’re not your fault. Please share them, when you’re ready, in your time.