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In seriousness, I have been there. I spent most of my life looking, and finding, unavailable men - emotionally or physically. Thank god for Chebbar.
I am relating here and my heart goes out to you!
I, too had some really BAD experiences and I totally decided I wouldn't truest a man AGAIN! My children and I would be better off WITHOUT one!
Then I met HIM!! He was a widower. We were both avoiding the person someone else had tried to line us up with... We ended up chatting, he talked about his wife that had passed... I was amazed at the love and respect that dripped from his tongue as he spoke of her. A window in my mind opened. Maybe there ARE some good ones left...
The next day he asked me to lunch... not long and he told me he loved me. I broke down and cried. He felt bad that he'd said it too soon. I didn't cry because he'd said it, but because I felt it, too. But I didn't feel that I was good enough for him. I also didn't trust myself in making these types of choices. I'd failed so miserably in the past. I was afraid to open my heart again! I asked him if he would talk to my counselor with me. He told me he'd DO ANYTHING for ME... He WALKED the TALK! Was he for REAL?? Could I trust thinking that he COULD BE??
My counselor helped me see the substance behind the man and break down my insecurities and fears with him. I chose to lower my wall and let him in, thanks to a counselor that helped me not be my own worst enemy.
13 years down the road, he is still a wonderful man. I still have relapses of insecurity and doubt. Somehow, he continues to love me, in spite of me. I think I should have a counselor on tap to keep my mind from getting foggy and regressing into the past.
The past is a part of who we ARE, but we can't let the past cripple our future. (((HUGS)))
Thank you for sharing your story - sadly I've been witness to similar situations, and it is life altering.
I'm so proud of you for sharing this. I remember reading this on your site and it still makes me cringe that you ever doubted yourself like that. You don't deserve that.
Thanks for being the voice for so many other women. You rock. :)
Some people never acknowledge or learn from what happened to them. It's a struggle, but I'm so glad you're facing up to what happened to you and its implications for your relationship. And so glad you have Chebbar to help you work through it!
It's so hard to get through that terrible mental anguish. I'm so sorry you had to go through it, my friend. You didn't deserve it. No one does. Much love.
That's what my ex came into our relationship with - similar experience, several times over - so I always understood why he didn't trust me or 'the guy' he was worried about me speaking to. But I hope he can get to the point where he's able to make a conscious effort, like you have. I'd like him to be happy in a relationship.
And you know I love you, doll.
Overcoming all the crap that was fed to us in life is so hard. It's such an uphill climb, trying so hard to reclaim ourselves.
Good for you for standing up and saying that what happened was wrong. That it hurt. That it damaged you.
Best wishes in your continued healing.
After nodding my head both in agreement and support of you while reading, something I wrote in my own "VU" post popped in my head. As I read your last line, it solidified so I went back to find it: "The experiences we have. The choices we make. These are the things that make us products of our pasts … We don’t, however, have to be victims of our pasts. There are ways to get out and go on with life."
Anyone who endures these kinds of experiences and claims to be unaffected by them is either lying or in denial. The trick is to identify, acknowledge and work as hard as you can to rid yourself of the overpowering impact these events can have. I can't tell you that it ever goes away. In some respects, I don't think we should want it to. As you said, lesson learned, making it valuable to both us and others.
But I can tell you that it gets a whole lot easier and your psyche is a whole lot lighter and brigher without all the garbage floating around there! Kudos to you for being brave enough and finding the strength to confront it head-on and to share so that others can benefit, too.
I'm so glad you have Chebbars now and are able to experience what a relationship *should* be. Kudos to you for hanging in there and being willing to open yourself up to the painfully slow process of learning how to trust again. ~hugs~
The past will always be a part of you. But recognizing that, and marching ahead is something you should be proud of.
And learning to trust again, even if little by little, is courageous.
You're pretty awesome.
I think, at times, it's so subtle that you don't realize what's going on until you're right smack time in the middle of it all. I'm so sorry you had to go through such hell but I'm so glad you have Chebbar in your life. Also, I admire your strength for putting this out there for all to read. You're helping others.
Of course your past plays a role in who you are today. But it doesn't have to define who you are. You are clearly strong enough to recognize and share your story. Seeing it clearly will help you move forward. Good luck.
Been there. I almost went to check to see if I knew you! But that's not the point. I think that's the worst sometimes, when you find yourself turned against someone you should be working together with. Hopefully someday I'll be where you are now.