Dear Tracy
To my beautiful little sister Tracy,
Why?? Why didn’t you say anything? Why didn’t I, or anyone else, see anything? I know you were strong and probably thought you could handle things on your own but now you are gone. You and my beautiful niece, murdered by a coward. Why?
I knew you were having problems, but I didn’t know they were this bad, why couldn’t you let me help you? I will never know the answer to that now. I will never get to hear your voice again. I will never get to watch my little niece grow up. I will never get hugs from you or her again. I will never hear the words “Aunt Lisa” from my little Christmas angel. Both of you taken away from me way too soon. Why?
I sit here and blame myself as I look back and try to remember our conversations. Was there a hidden message? Was I not there enough for you? We talked every other day, at least… why couldn’t you let me help you? None of it matters now, you are gone.
I know you would be telling me everything happens for a reason. What is the reason for this? Is this your way of trying to help others? Is this your way of getting people to open their eyes and put a stop to this? I will never know the answers to these questions either but that is what I feel in my heart, that is what I feel you are telling me to do.
If I can help at least one person, save at least one person’s life, save at least one family from having to go through what I’m going through, I will have done my job.
But my dear little sister, you know me better than that. I will not stop at only saving one person, one family, I will keep going and try to save as many families as possible. I will make you proud.
I may need some help now and then and I know you will be watching over me to make sure I’m doing it right and that’s okay with me… keep watching over me, I need your help.
I’ve gotta run, you’ve left me with quite the job. I love you little sis, give Deja a big hug and kiss from me. We’ll talk soon.
Your big sister, always,
Lisa
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On December 3, 2009, Tracy and Deja Judd were brutally murdered by Deja’s father. He also killed Amber Weigel and their young daughter, Nevaeh, before finally turning the gun on himself. Tracy and Deja’s family established a memorial fund in their honor at Domestic Abuse Intervention Services. Deja would have been two-years-old on Christmas day.
Tracy Lynn Judd
(1976-2009)
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Deja Renee
(2007-2009)
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Our family is in overwhelming pain over these violent, unexpected murders of two of our loving family members. My thoughts about preventing this are parallel to Lisa’s. Tracy knew how strong the women in our family are and I believe that she truly loved the father of her child and thought that she was handling the situation . What she did not realize was the depth of his rage and violence, I can only hope and I am probably being naive here, that it is because it was never unleashed against her before.
I was told last week that our entire family had become a victim of domestic abuse , starting to process this – something that I will do for the rest of my life – I know that we have a lot of work to do, each in our own way and in the memory of Tracy and Deja to keep others safe. Knowing others who have been helped along the way it is really overwhelmingly painful to accept our girls being murdered. We now need to be Tracy and Deja’s voices since they are no longer here. Love to all!!!
Lisa, I’ve told you all this before but I feel like I should say it again: You are reaching out to help others in the thick of your worst pain. How generous, how brave, how strong.
I wish I had words enough to thank you for this gift.
Much love to you and yours.
M
Stories like this one are making me surefooted in helping a friend of mine protect her daughter and grandchildren. I hope with all I have that I can help somehow.
I will make sure she reads this so her resolve stays firm. Thank you.
Words cannot convey how deeply sorry I am for you and your family. Thank you for sharing your sister’s story with us – and doing all you can to save others from going through the same pain.
Lisa, from the bottom of my soul (deeper than my heart)…please know how important this is…what you are doing.
I can’t even begin to understand the pain that you (and your family) are enduring at this very moment…but I can appreciate (and commend) the fact that you are making the choice to be vocal about this tragedy and choosing to help others in the wake of your own loss.
You should not have had to write this letter….but I am glad that you did….I wish I could say more…I wish I had words (any words) to help you and your family with this loss.
Love and peace
Natalie
I am so sorry this has happened to your family, and so grateful that you are speaking out. I will light a candle for all of you.
Lisa, you are the most thoughtful, caring person. This is a wonderful thing you’re doing and I will see you at Scatz on the 14th. Stay strong and know that many are learning from you. Peace & love to you and your family.
My heart is breaking for Lisa and her family. I can’t even imagine the crippling pain of losing those you love to such needless violence. I will be following that link and doing anything I can to help Lisa keep Tracy and Deja’s memory (as well as Amber’s and Nevaeh’s) alive in the hopes and triumphs of others who desperately need help.
Lisa, I’ve lost a sibling. Not to the horror that you have had to endure, but I can empathize with your loss in some small way. This story is so remarkably sad and I pray that you find peace.
Tears. I can’t even write anything more right now. Thanks for sharing your story. Peace to you and your family in whatever way you can find it. My heartfelt sympathies. Heartbreaking.
I am a survivor. I can’t take away your pain and I constantly ask how you are as I work with your best friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. Somehow I found the courage to leave but it wasn’t easy. You are constantly being threatened, but I managed to find a way to escape. Just know that I care.
my deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss… tragic, horrific… i’m sorry. so very sorry. your strength is overwhelmingly powerful and inspiring. thank you for sharing.
My God. You are in my thoughts today. And may others find the courage to simply ask where there is doubt . . .
your story is tragic and heartbreaking. it’s hard to see through the tears right now. please know that you are so strong to speak out and we are so greatful for your words. peace with you during these holidays and each day going forward in your life.
Lisa, I would ask exactly the same questions if my sister was a victim of domestic violence. My sister and I have a bond that we don’t share with anyone but each other. She knows me better than anyone else in this world. You and Tracy both shared the same life growing up, know things that others don’t, and have an unconditional love even when you have the occasional gut wrenching arguement. You tell each other things that only sisters will share. I, too, would wonder how I missed the signs. Were there any signs? How was I to know that the end of this relationship would be so different than the ones you (we) had before? I know it’s easier said than done, but you can’t blame yourself for not knowing. My heart and prayers goes out to you and to everyone who has lost a sister to domestic abuse.
My heart breaks for you a million times over. I wish you and your family peace and strength throughout this horrific time. Thank you for sharing your part of this story, and for your conviction to not let this terrible crime be in vain.
Lisa,
Lisa and Deja will always be in our hearts. The pain you are going thru I wish I could take it away for you. Losing such beautiful people in your life is such a loss. Turn to your family and friends at this worse time of your life. They will always be there for you! You are a strong woman and I look up to your strength. May God and all others guide you to peace with all of this. Forever your friend, Love L
God bless you & your family. There are no words I can say to ease your pain, but I the person you touch the most, the one who reaches out because of your words might change the world.
Thank you for opening up.
The commenters have written my thoughts. My sincere and deep condolences to you and all who love the lost ones. Sounds like you’re on a very important mission now. Blessings to you.
Keeping candles burning for Tracy and Deja by sharing their story is a tremendous act against the injustice of their loss. Thank you for allowing me to read this, to see their beautiful faces, and to stand with you as you work to have their lives honored. Peace to you, Lisa.
I pray that your family find peace. I’m so sorry for your pain and the loss of two beautiful souls. I wish there were words.
Sending love and prayers to you and your family. I wish you all peace.
My sister left this world a year and a half ago after enduring years of domestic abuse. Although time has begun to heal the wounds of losing my sweetest, dearest sister–there is not a day that goes by that I do not think about her. We were so close. We spoke to each other on the phone nearly every day. I’ve tried to make sense of her death…I dont think it will ever completely make sense. So instead, I try to hang on to and dwell upon the good memories I have of my sister and all the wonderful things she taught me.
Thank you for sharing your sister’s story which will in effect become your story as you share.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. It’s tragic and heartbreaking. Thank you for opening up. It will help others and we will all do our part to spread the word and make sure that no more loving sisters, mothers, daughters, nieces and wives are lost so needlessly and brutally.
i’m just so sorry, Lisa. and so grateful that you posted here and shared Tracy and Deja with the rest of us, so we can learn.
Lisa, when others who are in an iffy situation with a spouse read your sisters story hopefully they will also realize they can find help even if it is just to clarify their situation. If you need any help with spreading the message of getting help for others Maggie knows how to contact me. I too am a survivor and would love to help others survive. The pain does get easier to bear but the memories will live with you always.
Lisa,
I’m so sorry for the unconscionable loss experienced by you and your family. Tracy and Deja’s (and Amber and Nevaeh’s) lights have not been extinguished by this brutal, violent act against them. In fact, through you they glow brighter than ever before. We are with you one hundred percent.
Lisa, I just want to echo what Maggie has said.. how brave and how strong you are to shine this light for your sister, to carry this torch for her. What a horrifying and tragic thing to go through. God bless you for ensuring your sister and her precious baby did not die in vain.
Thank you.
I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry. I have no doubt that your strength in sharing this will help someone. They will not have died in vain.
Tragic. Not sufficient words.
It’s amazing to watch the resilience twinkle in such an abyss of darkness.
Thank you.
What an absolutely senseless tragedy…. I am keeping you and your devastated family in my thoughts. Stay strong in your mission to reveal the truth about domestic violence to make sure this doesn’t happen to anyone else.
Maggie, I just read your memorial for Tracy and am heartened by your faith and perseverance in making sure that victims of abuse and those around them have this forum to share their experiences, their thoughts, and their stories.
To Lisa, and all who knew Tracy, Deja, Amber, Nevaeh:
I am so very sorry for what you are going through. It is the worst thing.
But thank you, Lisa, for putting this statement out there. For putting this question mark in the head of every person who reads it. I don’t doubt that you saved lives today.
My mother is a Christmas baby and when I wake on Christmas morning, before I go to tell her “Happy Birthday,” I will take a moment to think of you and yours.
((((Lisa))))) and family.
Words can not give justice to what you & your family have been through. I just know that someone will be helped by you sharing your pain here. Thank you so much for sharing Tracy & Deja with us-they will be forever in my heart.
much love & peace to you.
Lisa, I cannot say how sorry I am for your incalculable loss. You will bring hope and safety and justice to other women and children in your new bittersweet calling. I’m sure that Tracy would be proud of you.
Peace to all of you dear ones this Christmas.
Lisa,
I dont have the words to ease your pain but I can say that you are doing an amazing thing here. I know you are hurting and have so many unanswered questions, as we all do. I have not spoken to Tracy in sometime and even with that being the case I still loved her and she was such an amazing person and loved by so many!! Her laugh could brighten anyones day!
I hope that you can stay strong, which I know you will. You will do alot in honor of your sister and neice! Its a very important thing and if we all can do one thing to reach out we will save so many!
Know that I am here to help in anyway and will see you on January 14th.
With love for Tracy and Deja and your family!
Heather Severson (Bass) and Family!!!
I don’t have any words, except to say that I am so sorry. I can’t imagine your bravery or the depth of your loss. I hope that you can go on to help many families – publishing your story here is just one of many steps. Thank you.
Tragedies like this make no sense to me. I hope I can never comprehend this senseless violence. Be strong for your sister and niece…and they will lift you up when you need it most.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can say that your words, will make at least one woman speak out. She will not hide because of fear, she will speak because of fear!
Much love to you and your family during this most difficult time.
I am so very very sorry. What a horrible coward. Thank you for sharing and sending you strength. This will make a difference.
I always read VU but seldom comment. Today, I commit myself to helping with your struggle to save other women from your sister’s fate. I will do it in my own community and with a strong sense of purpose.
May you and your family one day know peace.
I am so, so sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing your sister and niece with us, and for encouraging all of us to spread awareness to prevent more of these tragedies. Love to you and your family.
I am so, so very sorry for your loss. I have no words right now – please know that you’re all in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa, I am SO sorry for your losses. Thank you so much for being so strong and brave and posting this. Thank you for keeping the focus on helping others in the midst of your grief. You are amazing.
Lisa, when I heard your sister’s and niece’s story, and now to see their beautiful faces, my heart broke and once again I wondered how can this be? But my questions are nothing to compare to yours. And of course you must go through this, but please, please know that I care, lots of us do, and we hear. We will remember, and sometime, somewhere, your sister’s story — your story now — will help someone. I am so, so very sorry for your family’s loss — and ours, too. Many wishes for peace and comfort to you all. Thank you for your courage is being so open about this.
I’m so sorry. I grieve with you. Thank you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Lisa.
Wow! How horrible. Tracy was going through so much and now she is no longer in pain and her beautiful daughter was not left with the monster. Thank you Lisa for sharing and working to help others. Tracy will help you through all of this. She knows what to do.
While nothing can ease the pain of those who loved these people, it is a huge testament to their lives that someone is using their memory to help others, to save other lives. My heart and thoughts are with everyone affected by this tragedy.
Oh, Lisa, this is just as heart-breaking as reading the first story about Tracy and Deja … God, how I wish there was something I could say to make it easier for you. I feel for you more than you could ever know: My mother and I might well have been Tracy and Deja. It came close more times than I can count.
And you CANNOT, absolutely MUST NOT blame yourself. Abuse victims have different ways of dealing with it and one of them is to conceal the severity of their circumstances. My mother did it for years, even when it was blatantly obvious. They deny. They even deny it to themselves. I have a very close friend who only told me in the past year or two how bad things were with her ex-husband. I had no idea though we talk to each other about everything!
Speaking out and helping someone else is a wonderful act on your part. Please know that it WILL help someone else. Perhaps the loss of Tracy and Deja will give someone that push they need to see that it could easily be them, too. God bless you. I hope you can find some peace. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
I love you my cousin, my friend, and our baby angel. I will take care of your big sister, I will be her rock. We all miss you so, our hearts are broken.
Amy
Lisa,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Tracy and Deja’s story and your pain with us. I wish we could turn back time and save them and Amber & Nevaeh…to save you all from this horror and pain. You are doing such good in their memory. I know they are so proud of you and will be watching over you every day. Sending prayers for peace for you, your family and friends. God bless you.
Lisa:: I’m so damn sorry I could’nt hold you more or talk to you more last week. I was just so freaked out. When I think about how close we were as kids it made me think. Tracy was the little %$#@(whom I loved for it) and you were always the sweetest young lady in the world. I was a coward myself for not being stronger for you. I just was so shocked. I will be there for you anytime you need me. I promise!!!
I love you sooo much Lisa, please stay strong, Tracy would insist!!!!
Tracy,
I can not begin to imagin what you and your family are feeling right now, but know if there was any way I could take the pain away, if even for a day I would. Tracy and Deja are with you and your family everyday. They are a part of you now more then ever before, stay strong and know if you need anything at all I am here.
Love ya girl,
Justine
Lisa,
I can’t imagine the pain of this loss because there’s nothing in my experience to compare it to. I do know what it’s like to seek answers and find only more unanswerable questions though. And one of those questions will always be, “Could I have prevented it? Could I have done something? Said something? The right thing? The thing that would make this all not-happened?”
You’ve turned these questions, this pain, this anger, this suffering into something powerful and good. And I applaud that. Because there cannot be too many voices raised, cannot be too many hands lifted, cannot be too many eyes willing to see, ears willing to hear.
But it comes at a price, and it’s not a small one. Every day, every hour you will be confronted by stories just like Tracy’s. Every day, every hour someone will remind you of your loss, your pain, your baby sister and her precious child. I don’t say this to discourage you or to convince you that you’re making the wrong decision, I’d never do such a thing because only you know the right decision for you. I only say it so that you are forewarned. It’s coming, and there will be times when it will overwhelm you. It will be too much.
And at those times, you yourself will need to take your own advice and tell someone, talk to someone, lean on someone. Do not confuse this with weakness. It is not nearly the same thing.
You will know when the time is right, your heart will tell you how much it can stand and how soon. And while I cannot speak for the whole of this community, I can tell you that when you need it — not “if”, but “when”, — my shoulder is here for you to lean on, or to cry on if you choose. But mine or someone else’s, you will need it.
Your devotion to the greater good is magnificent. Just don’t exclude yourself from that compassion you so freely give to others.
Much Love.
I am so sorry for the loss of your sister and niece – their memory will forever be immortalized in your words and your action.
Thank you for taking action.
And for standing up.
The world need more “Lisa” in it.
to my dear lisa,sometimes god does not always give us a sign soon enough,but be assured he is with all of now. and you can count on me because i have spreading the word. may the love and peacebe with you now and forever. everyone will have some peace out of this horriff thing. may god be at your side and make you strong again. love you very much. aunt bev
dear lisa, i will do my part in what ever you want. i have been spreading this terrible act of violence. you are not alone,because you have our lord and savior on your side. i will be with you when ever you need me. all my love to you. aunt bev
How awful. I hope posting this and getting our comments helps…
I’m so sorry. Sending love and prayers.
Oh, how terrible. Thank you for sharing this. People need to hear it.
I am so sorry. Keep telling her story, your story. Share how devastating it is that you didn’t know the violence that lay waiting. Explain how if she had spoken up, her daughter would grow up and she would get to see her 40s and beyond. This step has been amazing, and the community will keep sharing it and thinking of your family.
you are taking this darkest of tragedies and turning the tide.
blessings to your family as you set off on this journey.
My heart hurts. I’m so sorry. I wish I could do something or say something that would help.
I hurt for you Lisa. I admire your courage right here when it’s still so fresh and painful.
There is no sense to be made. I believe the heart never truly understands losses of this magnitude and of this nature. The mind struggles, pieces together the facts, frets over the whys like so many prayer beads. The language of the heart knows only that you loved them, will love them still. That love will light, in a million myriad ways, your everyday and your path forward.
I will light a candle for you, for your family, for peace.
This post and you, are a candle indeed.
Lisa, I am still praying for you and your family. Wishing you only the deepest, most comforting peace.
This letter gave me chills. Lisa, know that you are not just one person. You have all of us here to help. You have an army of women and men that want to change this. I’m raising my hand up… way over here… can you see me? I am willing to help in any way I can.
God bless you and your family, Lisa.
I am so sorry for your loss. That you are determined to bring something positive out of your family’s tragedy shows just how much you loved—still love—your sister and niece. Thank you.
They cannot reach out since they love the abuser. Does not make any victim at fault, which is why they r the victim. But when u r in love with the abuser, u want to protect him
It breaks my heart that it was at the cost of 4 beautiful souls
May he burn in pain for eternity
Lisa, thank you for speaking out. Your loss is unimaginable. It is unfathomable that we live in a world, country, community where such violence occurs. Telling your story, sharing with others, as you so bravely are doing, WILL save lives and EMPOWER girls and women alike to make good choices and take action.
I’m sorry this terrible tragedy has happened to you and your family. Thank your for speaking to us.
I’m so sorry. I have no words for the thoughts that are rushing through my head after reading this. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your story.
Lisa, your sister would be so proud of you. I know how strong you girls are and always have been, it really shines through now with what you are doing in the wake of such a tragedy. Many many people will thank you for your dedication to your sister and your niece. Keep it up, they will always be smiling down you.
My heart is breaking for you and your family, and for Amber and Nevaeh’s family. It doesn’t make any kind of sense why this has happened, and never will. But your speaking out and shining light on something so dark is so brave and important.
Love and strength to you.
I am so sorry. Thank you for this post, and know that you are helping someone by sharing.
I don’t have any new words to say here – everyone else has pretty much already said them, and better than I could have. I can only say thank you for being so brave.
I am here for you Lisa. I don’t understand why, but I do know that we can not let it be in vain. Our family must remember everything Tracy stood for. I know as well as you do the ONE thing that was the most inportant to her was FAMILY.
Thank you everyone for the kind words. It helps to know that there are so many people out there that keep praying for our family. It also helps to have a site like this (thank you Maggie) where everyone can share their stories and thoughts. Thank you all again and even though my heart is breaking, I can and will do this, not only for my sister and Deja, but for everyone else out there who needs it.
Peace and LOVE to all of you!!!
Lisa (Judd) Blanchard
lisa there is no blame to be placed on you, you were there, exactly where she needed you to be. growing up in an abusive home as a child and later as an adult being a victim of domestic abuse, i was very ashamed, and i believed in him, i wanted everyone else to see the good i saw in him so i never shared the bad, i also thought that i alone could help him. it’s a very dark place. he was also sorry for what he had done to me, he cried, told me he’d never do it again, and i believed him. i never wanted to tell my family or friends because i did’nt want them to be mad or hate him. i know crazy right? i was such afool right? he put a gun to my head a knife to my throat, choked me until i passed out. i should have left right? but i believed that i alone could help him change, was it my fault? without the help of my friends and family i finally one day realized that i could not help him, or anyone else, but myself. my friends and family never judged me or pushed me they were just always there to answer the phone in the middle of the night. so please never give up on helping someone in an abusive relationship, the last thing they need is to be alienated, and the abuser needs to know that this woman has an army of loved ones in her corner, ready. so lisa if tracy and deja had to cut their time short here on this earth to save the lives of others in the same situation i think she’d be okay with that because she was selfless. my heart is with you and your family, be strong.
Lisa,
Ever since I was young girl wandering the hallways of Verona HIgh, I remember your confident beauty and kindness. The way you carried yourself showed your strength, and I imagine that strength has grown even more and shall help you through these hard times.
Tracy was admired by all who met her, and her sweet demeanor keeps her in all of our hearts. I am glad I saw Tracy at our 15 year reunion, she looked as she always has…..shining and beautiful.
I just want to share my heartfelt sorrow for you and the whole family. May the beautiful memories, in time, overshadow the bad ones. This tragedy has made a difference in many people’s lives, even when we are so far away. The cruelty of that man’s acts is over, but the love for those four whose lives are gone from us will endure forever.
May you have a peaceful Christmas surrounded by your loved ones,
Emma James Kramer
Tracy, Mary Kay and all of the family surviving this tragedy, thank you for your grace & strength in sharing your pain. I pray for your healing. I trust that someone, somewhere will find solace somehow. May God bless and keep you.
Thank you for sharing what must have been a very difficult letter to write. I hope you will find a way to not blame yourself for the violence that someone else is fully responsible for. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you and your entire family. May you all find peace after this tragedy.
Dear Lisa,
Tracy was a childhood friend, one that I didn’t see often after we graduated but one that always held a special place in my heart. Every day I think of her and that beautiful little girl I see in all of the pictures. I also think of you and how incomprehensible it is to imagine having a sister like Tracy and losing her. My God, my heart just breaks for you and your family.
What a powerful message you send by telling her story. Even for those that never had the blessing to know Tracy can learn from this. May you find peace in your quest to save other woman and children from this horrible tragedy.
Bridget McNamara
I don’t know what to say. I always know what to say, except today I just sit here, not knowing a word. Not a word. Just so, so sorry.
words are hard for me right now–between the tears and heartache felt while reading your words….bless you for sharing and may your heart feel some sort of calm in the good that you are doing here. Your sister, niece and all other victims are so fortunate that Maggie uses this form to help everyone in dire circumstances. I don’t have a sister, but a daughter and granddaughter – the thought of ever losing them sends searing pain to the very core . Keep your heart and soul strong by remembering Tracy and Deja loved you – and will alwaysl love you from different place.
There are no words, I am so sorry for your loss. I am touched by your bravery at what must be such a difficult time. I am only sorry that the murderous coward turned the gun on himself, rather than face his deserved punishment.
Gah. So sad.
So sorry for your loss. I’m glad you are honoring their lives, and giving them a legacy, by working against domestic violence.
I cannot imagine your pain. Thank you so much for sharing and wanting to help others. I pray for your efforts.
Lisa,
When I heard the news…my heart sank to the bottom of my stomach. As it still does today. The tears flow so freely, even as I write this at this moment, as if someone had opened a flood gates. All I can think about is “Oh god why’.. Why..Why…Why..” When I heard the news, I found myself driving around aimlessly to escape the sadness I felt for you and your family. I wanted so to reach out to you, but didn’t know how. What would I say when I saw you. What could I do to help you. What can I do going forward for you. I just wanted to give you a hug and take on some of your pain. I know your strength. I remember doing St. Jude fund raisers with you at the Verona bowling alley. I know your drive, your passion, and your spirit to make a difference. I can’t make your pain ever go away. I can’t imagine what your feeling.. I can grieve with you, which I do. I can give you my shoulder to cry upon. I can give you my arms to craddle you when you feel so tired from having to deal with all of this. I can provide you strength to push forward when the days feel like you can’t go anymore. On those days, when you just can’t go anymore, turn to your family, friends and loved ones and ask them to ‘carry you through’. As Jesus does for all of us. All we need to do is ask him. I pray that you take care of yourself first, so you can take care of others. Your a brave, stong sole..and are very much loved for that. May god bless you and keep you close to his heart every moment of every day my dear friend! Love, Michelle & Joshua
I am so truly sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your sisters story. I pray it finds its way to those who need to hear it most.
~Aerin
so very very sorry
Lisa,
as I read this, i want to tell you first that you didnt do anything wrong. so many of us live through this and do our very best to keep anyone else from knowing. when i initially announced that i wanted to divorce my exhusband, almost no one could believe it. my own parents tried to talk me into going back. now, at least my family gets it.
but it takes the courage and stories like yours, and everyones here, to create the awareness that has and will continue save lives.
you obviously loved your sister and your niece very much and you were lucky to have them for a season. I am truly sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss, it was New Year’s Eve one year ago that I was able to get out of my domestic violence situation.
I can only say having been physically abused myself that it is a very scary situation and many wonder why women don’t go forward. Through the process of turning him into the police, I lost my job and my home. Being a single mother of 3 girls it was a humbling and terrifying experience buy I am thankful to be a survivor.
We truly need to educate women and men alike of the resources available so that women can get help before it ends in a loss. Again I am so sorry for this loss, I can feel your pain and can only imagine what she has gone through.
I pray for your and your family.
LB
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