Comments on: Eva Marie

By: Fragrant Liar

Fragrant Liar — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 17:09:45 +0000

I know exactly what you are saying about that little girl inside you. I was molested when I was only 3. I remember it. Not clearly, but well enough to be certain of its reality and how it has affected me my whole life. I wrote about it in less than vivid detail (because I can’t write it any other way) here:

http://fragrantliar.blogspot.com/2009/06/void.html

I take care of the little girl inside me still. I think of her often, and I treat her to special things once in awhile because she is me, and good self care is essential.

I also had an abusive husband. Not as violent as some, but that doesn’t diminish all the years of how badly he treated me. I got out too, with my four kids. I’m so glad you did as well.

My best to you.
Kimber

By: Kay

Kay — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 17:09:06 +0000

Learning to love yourself and let go of that shame is the hardest part – even though the shame, like you said, isn’t yours to carry.

Putting it to words, sharing your story… that’s such a huge step towards healing.

I truly hope that little girl inside you is beginning to thrive again. Because you’re right – she wasn’t lost, she was just hidden inside you.

Thank you so much for sharing here.

By: Sunny

Sunny — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 19:17:42 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Emily R

Emily R — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 03:29:29 +0000

oh, that little girl

By: FreedomFirst

FreedomFirst — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 17:28:17 +0000

God works in mysterious ways. Who would have ever thought that his cruel words would trigger your healing process? I’m so sorry that you were victimized like that. To hurt a child is the lowest and most evil form of violence.

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 04:24:36 +0000

What a truly powerful and moving post. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m deeply touched. I wish you peace and strength as you continue onward in your journey toward healing.

By: Aunt Deb

Aunt Deb — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:12:19 +0000

Thank-you so much for these words – “To heal you need to grieve… To grieve you need to feel… To feel you need to be open for the ache… To do that is to love yourself, and know you are worthy of the time and energy involved.”

I read them to my daughter, who is recovering from a horrible injury.

Bless You!

By: Aunt Becky

Aunt Becky — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 20:25:38 +0000

Beautiful post.

By: Kate

Kate — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 05:28:48 +0000

This was so well written!

I’m proud of you for recognizing that you must allow yourself ot grieve the losses you suffered in order to move forward in life and for taking the steps to do just that.

You are strong & brave.

Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 01:41:42 +0000

Loving yourself is so hard, even under the very best of circumstances. How much harder when you’re carrying around other people’s shame? You do deserve to grieve for yourself, and to love yourself, too. Never doubt it. Thanks for sharing.

Liz