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Richard

Evelyn, congratulations on both coming to the realizations that you have arrived at and in finding your voice and sharing your story here. You have NOTHING to be ashamed of and no reason to feel guilty. You are 100% not guilty for being raped. I pray that you can continue to work through your memories and feelings until you arrive at a point where you know that you are healed.

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NotJustAnotherJennifer

I had something like that happen to me about 8 years ago. I went home with a friend's boyfriend and some other people and passed out on his bed. I have vague memories of us having sex and me encouraging him, but his name was the same name as my previous boyfriend. I totally thought it was my fault, that I'd accidentally mislead him that way. It wasn't kept quiet because we had to tell his girlfriend and of course she told everyone else. I was embarrassed and knew everyone's opinion of me had changed and now they thought I was a slut. I thought of myself as "the other woman" in a cheating fling. For years (even after I was married) I had dreams about it and would wake up smelling him and want to vomit.
I never thought he should shoulder any of the responsibility (except for being a cheat) until a little over a year ago when I was talking with an ex I hadn't seen since high school, and he was the first one to say I'd been taken advantage of. I was unconscious, clearly that was the case, but I felt so guilty for so long - and still do a little. It's a weird gray area that it seems like no one can sympathize with so I never talk about it. I've been wanting to write a post for a long time. You may have given me the courage to do so. Thanks for sharing.

Jennifer

I am so glad that this doesn't define you anymore.

Krissy

You aren't alone. It's hard and it's scary to figure out how to own your body again, but you can.

moonspun

You have nothing to be ashamed of. Nothing. I am glad that you are working through this and that you have found someone that you love. And you can know what true intimacy is.

Angela

I lost my virginity in a similar situation. I never said yes, but I also was not drunk (I don't think. There may have been something in my drink, but not sure.) Instead I just remember saying no and trying to explain why we shouldn't while he just went on to do what he wanted. Not violent, but still rape.

I went thru the same thing with having lots of meaningless sex afterward, because honestly I figured if I had done that I just must be a whore and good for nothing else. It took a long time before I forgave myself for being naive. Because that's what I was. I wasn't stupid. I was naive, innocent and trusting enough to think that when I said no in a calm logical way it would be respected.

Sometimes I think the real victim in my situation wasn't me physically as much as it was my innocence and trust. Trust in both other people and in myself. Trusting myself to be able to take care of and protect myself.

Ann

Wow. Similar situation happened to me about 16 years ago. Your words inspire me to write it down. I cannot tell you how much damage it has done to me to have lied about it for so long. Thank you for speaking out.

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Zoeyjane

I know someone who this just happened to. Someone I care about very deeply. When she told me, she made me promise not to tell anyone - at least not that it was her - and her nonchalance, the fact that she does know that she said no, but she was drunk and she kissed him and she doesn't "think it was a thing", it made me both sad, mama-bearish, and also, completely facetious, as I said to her, "Don't worry, I won't narc on your for being raped."

And when she denied that's what it was, again, "Whatever you want to tell yourself. No means no, even when it's slurred and if you're incapable of clearly saying yes, then whoever you're with should be incapable of sleeping with you."

After that, she started calling it a thing.

Seriously, I wish that you would have told someone, who would've treated you so insensitively, too. Hugs.

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Gina

Hooray for you for understanding that what happened to you is not the way sex is supposed to be. Hooray for you for speaking out here. Hooray for you for moving on and healing.

Best wishes as you continue to learn how it feels to be respected.

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Fran

Evelyn, I am glad you have come so far and I pray for your continued healing. You are not alone in dealing with these shades of gray and the untold ways in which this violation affected you. Bless you for sharing.

Just Me

I feel like I could have written this post. I had something so similar happen, and don't know what to call it. At first, I felt like it was okay. It was my first time. I said no repeatedly. I was drunk, and he wouldn't stop so I think I said yes.

krista

this was my story, too. fifteen. half a bottle of tequila. spring break.
i think i said no. but i also think at one point i said okay. i think i walked in the room with him. i remember the pain. (i was a virgin before that.)
i know he stopped because i started throwing up. my friend came and got me (she didn't know i was in the room with him until then.)
i don't remember if i said no.
i wish i remembered saying no.
i would feel better about calling it rape. even though i was too out of it to give consent. and i was so so young.
sigh.
i'm with pam. a real man wouldn't have done anything in the first place.
and i'm so glad you shared this. i think there are more of us out there on this side of the fence. the grey area of the grass.

Tina

I lost my virginity in a similar fashion. It also tainted my feelings towards sex.. I constantly question its value and its meaning. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing, Evelyn. I thought I was crazy for feeling the way I felt. Now I know that I'm not. And I'm not alone.

Pam

A real man would have told you no, picked you up and taken you home even if he would have had to face your parents.
I am so very happy that you are able to talk about this and are in the process of understanding that even though you said yes the boy who did this should have said no.
Real men do exist. I pray that you have found that and will continue to heal.
I wish you the best.