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Jennifer writes at Nanakoosa's Place, a "personal consulting, mentoring, and advocacy website for and by real women." .

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21 comments
Rina
Rina

Thank you for speaking out, it made the little girl in me feel less alone. Being a fellow "caretaker" I will remind you to take care of yourself because I know that too often we leave ourselves off the list, even in our now adult lives! :)

Sunny
Sunny

Thank you for sharing your story.

Theresa
Theresa

Jenny,

Thanks for sharing your compelling story. I could feel your pain as I read this. Stories like this need to be told so others know that they are not alone. Thank you.

Gina
Gina

You do such an eloquent job of expressing the "rationale" for why we stay against our better judgement. Unless you've lived it, I think that's a difficult thing for people to understand. We want to help and to make a difference in our abuser's life and it never occurs to us that we are all the while allowing them to manipulate us. I totally understand your conflicted feelings about his self-destructive actions.

Thank you for speaking out. I am glad for you and your daughter that you survived and are healing. Best to you.

Chantel
Chantel

Thank you sharing your story Jennifer. I can relate to finding out your pregnant and knowing deep down inside you should get that greyhound ticket and get far far away! What you wrote about having good happy times in an abusive relationship is something I wish people understood as well.

I think you are very brave! Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mom. :)

Frelle
Frelle

Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciated the look into what you were thinking and feeling, it was incredibly courageous of you to write this in the way you did.

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Skytimes

Yay for breaking the chain. Deeply touched by your story. So many similarities.. I'm glad you made it outta there in one piece, with your daughter by your side. Thanks for sharing your story, brave lady...

pgoodness
pgoodness

Good for you for breaking that chain. You are brave and strong.

Jenny Hazard
Jenny Hazard

Thank You all so much for your support and kind comments, it means more to me that you can ever know!
Peace,
Jenny

TigereyeSal
TigereyeSal

I was so tense and anxious for you throughout your story. Sad as I am for your daughter that she had to compete with her father on what should have been a special day, I applaud the healing you and she have done, and join you in wishing him well. I also wish for joy and peace for you, your daughter and your grandchild(ren).

Aerin
Aerin

Yes! It is so hard when you know they are damaged and hurt themselves and you want so badly to fix them... but you can't. I still have a difficult time talking about my ex negatively because I know how much he has been through. I am just now, after 20 years, understanding that I have a right to tell the truth. I don't do it to hurt him, I do it to heal myself and it's time to worry more about myself and less about everyone else (even if it's difficult for me to do). His past doesn't make it all ok and it doesn't make my pain any less than it is.

Thanks so much for sharing... you are in inspiration... a true survivor. Your daughter is lucky to have you. Wishing you a peaceful and calm life...

Erin
Erin

Thank you for sharing your story. I know the feeling of realizing that you are a cold, hard human being and totally not who you used to be. My ex never actually did anything, but he would threaten all the time to commit suicide and I would think "please, just do it, then ths would be over". Definitely not the woman I want to be, or the woman I want my son to think I am. Again, thank you for sharing your story. As always, I relate in such a deep way.

elle
elle

wow... this really hit home- except i didn't keep the baby, and i left after almost four years of drugs and abuse. a lot of my story is found on my own blog... and i've always considered submitting it here, at violence unsilenced.

you are so, so brave. thank you for sharing this.

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Laura
Laura

Wow. I'm glad that you've broken the chain.

Jennifer
Jennifer

This is an amazing story. And you have done a fantastic job raising your daughter into a strong enough woman to recognize her father for who he was and tell him what she needed from him. I'm glad for you that the last of the chain is broken.

Zoeyjane
Zoeyjane

That whole story hurt my heart, and I related to it on a really deep level. Maybe because I related to it so well. Thank you for sharing, Jennifer. This spot never feels like the right one to says it, but you're an amazing writer.

SheilaW
SheilaW

Thank you for sharing your story, I'm so glad to know you are on the other side of it now...

nic @mybottlesup
nic @mybottlesup

i'm at a loss for words, but wanted to let you know you were heard.

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