Comments on: Kelly

By: Joy

Joy — Fri, 08 May 2009 03:20:54 +0000

I am sorry that you were left waiting for your ending. I am sorry that you ever had a story for which you needed an ending. I wish you peace, and words to tell your daughter about the story that has now, in one sense, ended.

By: Selaen

Selaen — Thu, 07 May 2009 04:32:47 +0000

Thank you for sharing, you truly have something to be grateful for: that you got away. Nobody deserves what you got. And I hope that his wife didn’t have to go through it, or that his kids had to go through it. Because you found something good with someone new, and nobody should have to go through what you did!

I’m happy for your ending.

By: kellyb

kellyb — Wed, 06 May 2009 17:35:06 +0000

I just want to say thank you so very much to each of you that have made a comment, left support and encouragement. I appreciate it more than you know. I consider myself *lucky* to have gotten away from this man and from the grip he held so tightly on me… I almost feel lighter now knowing that he can never hurt me again. I am in a very wonderful marriage now, with ooodles of kids and am overall very happy and proud of my life. Thank you Maggie for allowing me to share this part, I am sure that it will help with my closure.
k

By: Rachael

Rachael — Wed, 06 May 2009 17:13:01 +0000

I don’t know what to say except that I am sorry. I’m sorry you had to go through all of it, and I’m sorry that you’re suffering a loss now that’s probably painful and confusing all at once. Thank you so much for sharing your story here. Every day when I read the stories here, I think about how many women could be helped and given strength through the strength of you and the other people who have shared.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 06 May 2009 16:33:33 +0000

Never feel bad that your daughter’s father wasn’t in her life. That was a blessing for both of you and a gift you gave to her. The cycle is now broken.

By: Vicky

Vicky — Wed, 06 May 2009 13:50:15 +0000

I fully believe, that your daughter will help you tell her when it comes time to share. And that in some ways, she will already know, maybe not the details, but of the traumatic life you once lived and all of the pain it brought you.

I hope you are able to process some of your emotions and to really heal from all of the pain you have been carrying. You did a great thing by getting away! This is a beautifully written chapter to your life, despite the ugliness you experienced. Thank you for sharing!!

By: Eaton Bennett

Eaton Bennett — Wed, 06 May 2009 01:51:17 +0000

How does life get so messed up! I’m sad for your pain, I hope you are getting some peace finally and that you are able to be free of the immense pain and sadness from all you have been through

By: Withheld

Withheld — Tue, 05 May 2009 23:26:40 +0000

I spent many a night waiting for an ending just like this.

Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Indigo

Indigo — Tue, 05 May 2009 21:36:16 +0000

There is no easy way to answer these questions…

I’m 43 and it’s only been the last 2 years since my own story surfaces. It’s only been 6 years since my last beating.

My daughter is going to be 21 next year. She was so angry at me for years and didn’t understand why I stayed through the abuse (not her father). She never really knew the stories of what happened to me as a child, the ones that somehow stake a claim on your insecurities and feed them to you in an endless stream of abuse.

Someday she will. I’m in the process of writing it all out…all the pain, each wound and hurt I ever suffered. My daughter knows I’m writing this book, she wants to read it when it’s all finished. I’m so not ready for that…but our daughters need to know the truth at some point…don’t they?

Thank you for sharing your story dear friend. (Hugs)Indigo

By: Jennifer H

Jennifer H — Tue, 05 May 2009 20:34:18 +0000

I have no doubt, not even the smallest hopeful shred, that your daughter is better off never knowing her father. Those other children that he did hold? I fear what else he did. Those stories will out, too, in time.

You are so strong for keeping your daughter from him, for leaving and staying away. Thank you for sharing your story here.