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I can be angry about what she did, but I find that I can't feel anything but pity for her. She was as much a victim as I.
Maybe someday I'll be able to tell my story on my own blog, openly. For now, it's enough to put the truth out there. I may be quiet, but I am no longer silent.
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What was done to you as a child breaks my heart. No child deserves to experience that.
But I can't help but marvel at how amazing you have grown up to be. It might have taken a lot of time and a tremendous amount of effort and pain to reach, but you have become someone so amazing. Being so understanding and compassionate with the girl who did this, it takes someone so great to be able to say that.
You are amazing! Never forget that.
Wow, this is truly a worthwhile story to tell. In spite of everything that happened to you, you made it to the other side. I applaud you for that. You will be an inspiration to many that have walked in your shoes and those that haven't.
I identify with so much of what you've said here... feeling not enough... like all I seem to do is cause pain... I've gotten better over the past year, but am amazed at how much further along you are then I am. I look forward to a day when I truly believe people are capable of loving me for who I am. Some days it seems like such a long road... thank you for showing me a little further down the path. You've come a long way, you are strong, you are worthy of love and I am honored to know you through your story here. Thank you so much for sharing it. Best wishes for peace and love from here on out.
I don't always come visit this site, as it can be quite harrowing since I have a story to tell that I don't quite want to deal with, and I don't always have it in me to read the other stories, but something told me to stop by here tonight. I wish I could give you a big warm hug and some of my homemade macaroni and cheese. I am so glad you are finding ways to heal, and that this is one of the things that you can do for yourself to improve things in your life. It is terrible to be robbed of your innocence and I am so saddened that this happened to you, and that you punished yourself in all these ways and for all this time. I hope your healing continues in every way, on every level, especially learning to love yourself, because you do indeed deserve that love. Bless you, honey.
My heart breaks for you. Hopefully, you're beginning to understand that you are enough, that you deserve to be able to heal.
Thank you so much for your story. As I was reading, I started to wonder if you were a childhood friend of mine, though in all honesty, I doubt you were. Your story could be my own. Thank you for being brave enough to share it and I am so glad you are finding healing.
I don't know how to express how grateful I am for the comments you have been leaving here. I'll admit that when Maggie told me my story would be going up on Monday, I nearly had a panic attack, even though I wanted it.
Reading your comments, feeling the support, seeing that my story is helping others just as so many other people's stories here helped me: it's moving me further along the path of healing. I wasn't able to tell some of my friends who don't read here regularly or my boyfriend that my story was going up until I started reading the comments. Now they know. The love and support keeps rolling in.
So thank you, thank you, thank you. And may God bless you all and grant you healing as well.
--M (a.k.a. "TeacherMommy")
Thank you so much for sharing your pain and your survival. It is so important for those reading who may not be able to put words to theirs quite yet.
Dear heart of mine,
Oh, that I would have been strong enough to share your burdens when it would have helped! I'm glad to know it's not too late, never too late to be honest friends, and I'm only always a phone call or email away.
This story hits so close to home for me that I don't know what to say. I just know you did the right thing by letting it out. God bless you.
You are amazing! Congratulations for finding your way out of the darkness and recognizing that you are a wonderful person and DESERVE to be loved and respected.
Thank you for sharing, and starting the process of healing for so many others.
That is some story. You are unbelievably brave for sharing it and breaking your silence. I have nothing but respect for you. I hope that by writing it and sharing it, it helps you to find a way to continue your healing. Big hugs. xxx
An incredible story, beautifully told. I ache for you - for all those years that you were silent and unwittingly self-sabotaging almost everything about your life. Thanks for revealing your authentic story, exposing your barest thoughts and experiences. It certainly helps to explain why you are such a gifted writer and why I have felt so connected to you. You are bravery personified and should be so proud of yourself for writing something so raw and revealing and brutally honest. It makes me admire you all the more.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You should be so proud of yourself for speaking out, and for forgiving yourself. That is true strength.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for what you had to go through and I am so impressed with your bravery. It is inspiring me to take one step closer to telling my own.
Wow. I sit here with tears. One day I hope to have the courage you have shown by sharing your story. You put into words, what I have felt and could not. Thank you for helping me find some words.
I am so sorry you went through what you did. I know the guilt of introducing it to another...and the pity you feel for your abuser. You are not alone. You are not alone. Thank you for showing me that neither am I.
I hope you are able to have this time to heal and be the amazing person you deserve to be.
I'm so glad that you're speaking out and getting the help that you need. Much love to you as you continue to heal. xoxo
I felt like I was reading my own story. I am shellshocked sitting here.
Thank you for being brave enough to tell the story some of us can't share yet.
it is apparent just from the above comments that you have a strong network of support.
i applaud your strength not only to speak out, but to realize you can forgive yourself. to this day, i struggle with that.
i wish you peace in your continued healing and survivorship.
thank you for sharing your story.
We are so impressionable, so vulnerable, so innocent at 5. It is beyond comprehension to me how others seem to disregard that, to not appreciate it and celebrate it, choosing instead to destroy it for their own means.
It’s a credit to you that you have been able to share and been able to recognize what was done to you AND to deal with it. So much of our lives can be wasted and lost by ignoring the source, choosing to deny, refusing to at least try to tackle and evict the demons within. And that you have such a depth of compassion for the girl who abused you … that says so much about you. It says what a good person you are in spite of the abuse that was done to you.
There has to be some gratification in knowing that your story will help others. (In reading the other comments, I see that it already has!) Maybe they’ll be able to find the courage and strength to face it down. It’s the only real way to making those demons go away.
Don’t let the past consume you. I hope that you find the peace and happiness you so richly deserve. It sounds like you are on that path. Amen!
YOU DID IT! (You sneak. You didn't tell me.)
I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am to see this story here today.
You did it. You spoke out.
Your very first sentence could have come out of my mouth. I understand keeping a decades old secret. I hope that sharing your story here today is as healthy and liberating for you, my friend, as it was for me, and is for so many other people.
I am so happy you have found healing! Your story touched my heart so much, there were so many feelings I have felt. God bless you for sharing!!
Thank you for sharing your story, these puzzle pieces of your life, with us. Sending thoughts of healing, hope and light in your direction- may your backpack be a little lighter on this journey, knowing that you don't have to walk alone.
Courage and compassion after everything you have made it through. Thank you for sharing your story here. Wishing you the best.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Putting a name to it, saying it outloud makes it so much more real, doesn't it? It did/does for me.
Isn't it strange, eye-opening, and oddly freeing to see the patterns that tell our stories? It makes us more aware of just how many survivors there are out there. We are often so alike. I also have discovered that many of my friends are also survivors and we've shared our stories with each other. I'm so glad you shared your story. It came at one of those moments for me.. doubt is trying to swallow me up. Doubt and denial. Hearing stories like yours, that are similar to mine.. seeing myself in someone else's shoes. It helps.