Comments on: Marisa

By: Kay

Kay — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 16:41:39 +0000

I think we ALL do that – assume that our stories somehow don’t measure up to everyone else’s stories.

I hope that hearing from other survivors telling you that your story DOES measure up, that you belong here right along with the rest of us, helps you see clearly that you’re a survivor just like everyone else.

Thank you so much for sharing your story – and I hope that writing it helped you.

By: Liz

Liz — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:09:45 +0000

Thank you for sharing. I have moments in my past, too, that I’ve never thought of as abuse. But when you say them out loud . . .

Wishing you all the best,
Liz

By: Justme

Justme — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:03:32 +0000

Oh M – your story and your experience is definitely worth sharing; your voice and your struggles definitely worthy of being heard.

Thank you for sharing. (((hugs))) to you, my internet friend.

By: Dorothy

Dorothy — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:04:48 +0000

As so many have said violence and control are what they are. I think just about anyone can find someone who has been through “worse” situations. It is not the situation but the outcome on a person that makes it worth sharing!
I am glad you shared.

By: quin browne

quin browne — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:15:48 +0000

well said.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:55:57 +0000

Oh, Marisa. How could you think that the abuse you suffered wasn’t “bad enough” to count? I feel so sad for the little scared child you were. This is a remarkable story, and you are a remarkable writer.

By: Marisa

Marisa — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 17:16:05 +0000

WOW… Thank you all so much for your encouraging words. I don’t know what I expected by writing this, but secretly I didn’t think the after effects of something horrible could be so wonderful.

I’m honored that you took the time to comment and I’m struggling to find the right combination or words to properly convey my appreciation for the kindness you’ve shown me and strength you’ve given me to keep moving forward with positivity and grace.

By: Another Suburban Mom

Another Suburban Mom — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 12:45:55 +0000

I think that this was worth writing about. I think that in our hypermacho culture (even for women) its hard to admit that you have been a victim for fear it makes you weak.

But going out and giving what has happened to you its rightful name and talking about it is brave and may inspire someone else to put the proper name to what is happening to them and get out that much sooner.

By: FreedomFirst

FreedomFirst — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 01:37:22 +0000

It is certainly worth posting. I think in the end it’s the effects of the abuse, and not the acts themselves, that matter. My husband tells me about things he’s heard that he thinks are worse than what happened to him. I don’t think they are. I guess that’s just because I know him, while the people whose stories he relates are impersonal entities to me. Everyone has their threshold. And if the people around you are doing right, that threshold will not be crossed. Abuse is abuse.

By: Solanaceae

Solanaceae — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:10:02 +0000

For many of us, part of having grown up in an abusive environment left us feeling like we don’t have a right to our feelings, our words, our pain. We are left feeling we have no right to have a story to tell. None of that is true. Each of us matters. Each of our stories matter. You matter. To speak the truth isn’t asking to be treated like a victim. To speak the truth is to declare yourself a survivor!