Nicole speaks out at Violence UnSilenced

July 19, 2012 | domestic violence, survivor story

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Nicole writes at www.NicolePaul.com..

writearby 8 pts

Your daughter has wisdom beyond her years. Your approach towards getting out was well done, too. Keep healing. Keep growing. Keep spreading the word.

Blessings,

Richard

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Redneck Mommy 10 pts

It takes such strength to get out of a horrible situation and then to share your pain with others. Thank you for sharing. Peace to you and your daughter and may happiness find you all.

Skaft 6 pts

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SarahPMiller 17 pts

Nicole, you've done an incredible job of telling your story here, and of continuing to speak out. Thank you, thank you!

I'm so sorry you went through this, and for so many years. I am glad you and your daughter are in a safe place now and that you have had the strength to endure all of it. Peace to healing to you, now and in the future.

Jackie

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Emily Rosenbaum 6 pts

Thank you, Nicole. Keep speaking.

JuniperLimb 9 pts

Awesome daughter you've got. Glad she saw through it and helped you see it too.

Nicole....YAY for you! for speaking out, here and in your community. You are doing very important work....THANK YOU!!! I read my story in yours......I thought by changing this or that, doing something better, BEING someone better...that things would change....I thought wrong. Thank you so much for sharing!

tigger62077 216 pts

Thank you for telling your story, for showing that it doesn't just happen to the poor and uneducated, that abuse happens to EVERYONE. It took courage for you to leave and I'm grateful to your daughter for showing you that it was past time.

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SharonCouto @SharonCouto 20 Jul

@ReneeJRoss @VUnSilenced I'm one of those four... a very, very, very long time ago... not courageous like you to talk about it. yet. xo

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ReneeJRoss @ReneeJRoss 20 Jul

@sharoncouto If you ever want to write about it, we accept anon submissions at #VUnSilenced. ((Hugs))

@ReneeJRoss I will. I will. xo

VUnSilenced @VUnSilenced 20 Jul

@SharonCouto @ReneeJRoss We'll be here when you are. It's not a question of courage; all survivors have that. Each in her/his own time.

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Sheron Mbl Pigot

Nicole. Just read the basic story. I know what its like! My ex is mostly disabled but he still worked out to hit me. Isnt it wonderful when they buy flowers the next day and theyve told the florist that 'sharrons feeling a bit depressed 2day so i thort i'd cheer her up'? Makes me want to throw up. Ex is disabled but the violence and abuse comes from watching his father do the same thing. They prefer to blame the brain damage than face up to reality. Hes not silly or affected in the ways that his family pretend and meanwhile theres a young girl getting hurt more all the time! She must be just collateral damage! Ps. Youve done a wonderful job with daughter!

Nicole Paul

Thank you for your comments and insights. I wish I had known these things before I married. Today, I am grateful for the life I have and the support of others.

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Kelly Erickson

Yep - always said I'd never date a cop. Heard too many horror stories and not willing to take the risk.

Britni Clark

Police officers and military members have the highest occupational rates of DV out of any other occupation. It's unfortunate and not what many people would expect. But if you think about abuse as being about power and control, it makes sense, as both of these occupations appeal to people that like these things. They also often offer protection from consequences, too.