Comments on: Renee from Cutie Booty Cakes

By: Fran

Fran — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 19:53:15 +0000

Renee, Thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad you are here to give testimony and hope for those trying to break free from abusive relationships.

By: Kara

Kara — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 16:39:25 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your story. When you wrote:

“When he wooed me with the magic words “anger management” and “therapy” I grabbed that lifeline and stayed on for the ride.”

struck a nerve, and brought tears to my eyes. I am in this very situation now, with two small children…and feel like I have no way out. I am desperately trying to formulate a plan…but it’s so hard when he knows my every move.

Thank you for showing that it can be done. You give me hope.

By: Jean

Jean — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 00:55:00 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story, Renee. And a huge truckload of thanks for asking those who’ve never been in this situation to not judge, or ask “why didn’t you just leave?” I know exactly how hard it is to leave. You are a beautiful and brave woman. Love and hugs to you.

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 13:27:40 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story here, Renee. A powerful testimony, and one so many women, of every age, can easily identify with. You are so brave, and strong, and amazing. *HUG*

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By: Lillian

Lillian — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 23:22:47 +0000

Thank you for having the courage to survive and to share your story.

By: Deb on the Rocks

Deb on the Rocks — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:46:45 +0000

So wonderfully written! I hope this finds it’s way to the readers who need it, because I know it will make a connection.

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 12:01:29 +0000

Oh, Renee! *HUGS*
Like another person said, “the great equalizer” –you can be smart, intelligent, but the violator will be so insidious about separating you from your friends.
So sad. *hugs* for your 16yo self.
I met you – and still think of you – as a strong, brilliant, kind, and funny woman.
I’m glad you’ve got a great husband, and so glad that you shared your story–this really is the kind of thing that could help a teen.

By: Mojo

Mojo — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:34:49 +0000

I had to read this a couple of times. The second time I had to keep reminding myself that the girl in this story was only sixteen years old. I'm not saying it's more understandable or acceptable at 20 or 30 or 60, it's not and I'd never suggest otherwise. But the idea that you had to live through this when the biggest worry you should have had was whether you could get rid of that zit before prom is unbearable. Nobody deserves to live with this kind of fear, no matter their age or circumstance, but it seems especially tragic when it shapes the life of someone so young. But your story points out -- again -- that violence in relationships is the great equalizer. It doesn't play favorites, it doesn't recognize or respect any boundaries. And I'm thankful that you were able to find a safe way out of this, thankful again that you had the courage to bring it here where it can serve a greater good. And especially thankful that you've found peace in your life at last. As I was searching for something this morning I came across a website that addresses this very specific problem: dating violence among teens. It's called TheSafeSpace.org . I didn't spend a lot of time exploring it, but if you know someone in this demographic and this situation there may be some valuable resources there. Thank you for your courage, and for you willingness to lay your worst memories on the altar of the common good.

By: Jyl Johnson Pattee

Jyl Johnson Pattee — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:37:55 +0000

You’re amazing, Renee! What an ability to take a horrible situation and share it with such passion and so articulately in hopes of helping others. You are an inspiration to so many! And I agree with one of the previous comments… a real strength! I am grateful to know you! Thanks for sharing.