Roberta speaks out at Violence UnSilenced

May 29, 2012 | effects of childhood abuse, sexual abuse, survivor story

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Editor's note: If you are an adult suffering from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse, please know that you are not alone. RAINN is an excellent resource and we encourage starting with this article: http://rainn.org/get-info/effects-of-sexual-assault/adult-survivors-of-childhood-sexual-abuse ..

Leen

Dear Roberta - The first time speaking your truth can be so scary. Kudos to you! I personally think it's unimportant to try to quantify abuse. I had a friend tell me once that her black eye caused by her abusive husband was "only a little black". Hard to imagine what that actually means, you know? Abuse in any measure is wrong. I share with you the pain of having a mother who chose to continue to be married to my abuser. I was abused by my bio-dad and two of my brothers. My mother continues a relationship with all but one - choosing to discontinue contact with one of my brothers for an issue totally unrelated to my abuse. You have to determine what is healthy for you for the life you're currently living. Keeping his secret should not be on your shoulders. Nor should you continue a relationship with him if it continues to cause you pain. If you continue a relationship with him and with your mother, it may be important to ensure it's on your terms and is healthy for you. Wishing you much healing and many blessings. The best revenge is living a good life. Seek it - it's waiting out there for you. xoxo - Leen

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JuniperLimb 9 pts

I am so very sorry you have had to deal with this. It's not your fault and you are not alone.

ruby

You are not alone. Mine was a stepdad, but around the same age. My mom divorced him but for her own reasons not for mine. I understand the burden of having to keep someone's secrets and feeling the need to "protect" other people, like maybe your brother. The secrets make us sick, I finally told family after 25 years and it made some things worse because it cast light on a lot of other family dysfunction but I found amazing support in other places and from a key few people and I am free from some of the burden of being silent so long. I wish you grace and an unburdening of those burdens that no child deserves.

Roberta, you have taken the first step by letting your voice be heard here. You are not alone. I always thought that my abuse wasn't as bad as anyone else's, but it does not matter. Like you said, abuse is abuse and we are all damaged and traumatized. I am so happy that you have taken this step. You don't have to hold on to the secret any longer. It is not your job to keep your family together. I pray for you to find peace and freedom.

WorthWaitingFor 7 pts

"How am I supposed to this?" I think you just took a BIG first step. Congratulations on making the very difficult step of letting your voice be heard. I am so sorry that you had to carry around this secret for so long, and I am so sorry that your mother stayed with your father and did not provide you the love, support, and validation you needed and deserved. Thinking and praying for you as you begin the path of healing. Thank you for trusting us with your pain.

b.mary 7 pts

It matters not what the abuse was, touching, verbal, physical or full out intercourse. What he did was take away your childhood and probably a good portion of your adult life because he took away your trust. What he did is so wrong on so many levels. And then to have your Mother sweep it under the carpet, just reinforced the feelings of loneliness and despair. It's deplorable that you had to endure that kind of neglect after having gone through the abuse. My heart goes out to you with so much hope. Telling this story is a real good step towards healing. Know that you are not alone, ever, in your struggle.

Scoblitz 5 pts

Thank you for sharing your story with us, I am glad that you are getting help and working on your own healing, and letting folks here and elsewhere give you support - it can make all the difference in the world to know that others have your back and even though it can feel lonely, you aren't going through this alone.

Camille 8 pts

Thank you for sharing your story, Roberta. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, that your mother failed to protect and support you, and that your family has adopted an attitude of silence. Your counselor is right—there is no excuse for what happened to you, no 'this abuse isn't as bad as what others have been through.' Abuse is abuse, and I hope you will find healing through continued therapy. Wishing you love and peace.

AnnaMaria3 5 pts

This is Roberta. I want to thank everyone for the support. This is a HUGE step in my recovery process. It's the first time I "talked" about it in any detail since I was a child and I don't even remember what I actually said back then. I did this to help me in my process and to get support and not feel attacked. Thank you so much!

Roberta

Jackie

Thank you so much for posting about this. I think it's pretty normal that you'd feel like what happened wasn't that big a deal - that's the message you've gotten from your parents your whole life. But they're wrong. It's a huge, huge deal. It was so wrong - what happened, and how it was ignored and minimized afterwards. You should have been supported and protected and nurtured and kept safe. I'm so sorry you weren't. Some parts of abuse are actually MORE difficult to deal with when there wasn't overt recognizable violence, not less. The part of you that recognizes that it was wrong is the part that has it correct :). There's great strength in you, which I really admire. I believe you'll get where you want to be.

SarahPMiller 17 pts

Oh Roberta, I am so sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve this, anymore than you deserve the jobof keeping your family together.

I am glad to hear that you've been in counseling and I encourage you to keep going. It can (and is) really hard sometimes, no matter what kind of abuse you've endured or to what degree. You have a right to feel the way you feel about what happened to you. Period.

Thank you for finding the strength the share your story here. I wish you healing and peace for the future. THAT, you absolutely deserve.

ashiashay 5 pts

you are brave for sharing and each day you can wake up and remember that you'll feel a little stronger. I'm sorry that you feel so alone-but know that you aren't alone. we are all right here, cheering you on. one day at a time.

Deb Rox 10 pts

You are right, there's no need to compare abuses. What you endured--and still have to be exposed to in your family--is so very traumatic. And the memory loss is so hard. On the one hand we have to thank our little brains for protecting us from bad memories, but on the other we're acutely aware that so many good memories from childhood were inevitably stolen as well. Thank you for sharing this today. I'm imagining someone reading it after having to see her abuser at a family picnic where everyone wants the actions of the past to be invisible, and I can see her feeling so much less alone because of your post. Cheering you on in your continued healing.

Deb Rox You are so right. I not only blocked out the period my abuse happened but I've blocked out almost all of my childhood. I always hear my friends talk about all these things they remember from their childhood and I get sad because my memories are supressed. Thank you for the support.

kateanon 7 pts

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this alone. The fact that you have to face him constantly is awful, I can't imagine how difficult this must be. I know it would be painful to talk to your brother, but you should keep giving it some thought. Someday your parents will be gone and you'll need him to know why you were struggling. Don't wait until then to clue him in. My thoughts are with you.