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Bless you for sharing - just take it a day at a time - some will be easy, some will seem like the hardest day to get through - but you will get through each and every one because you are a survivor. These monsters are everywhere, they wear disguises of every shape and form sometimes looking just like the nicest person. Your story will make everyone who reads it aware - we all need to stay aware of who we are with and where we are. That way we can keep that self-protective instinct alive - telling our stories is the best form of protection for those who may not have reached that point yet - it may truly save some lives and I want to thank you for telling it the way you did. Be strong - every day you're away from them is a better life. Hugs, Barbi
I have to agree with Jett. I wish I were sitting with you and holding your hand and telling you that you are not alone. You are strong, you are a survivor. When I read about you not being able to pay rent I wanted to reach out and invite you to my home because your story is so painfully familiar. At least you've had the courage to tell us on this forum, it is one step I have yet to take. Maybe someday soon, because of your story, I will.
You did the right thing, and I'm glad you did it. I'm a trial lawyer, too, but I can't imagine doing that type of work and trying to tear apart a victim on cross. I hope you get vindicated eventually, in whatever form that needs to take.
I am so glad you found the core of you and are working to keep hold of it. I'm sorry that they threatened that core. You are beautiful and lovable.
when reading your story i couldnt help but think about when my mother was being beat up and how the man would make my mom and me feel like it was our fault now years later i have a husband who loves me and supports me im thankful for the lord bringing someone like him into my life.I was thinking about what i heard someone say in a tyler perry movie hes my favorite i dont know if you have seen them but they seem to set my mom free and me free from alot of pain and depression from being raped myself.it was diary of a mad black women>when you dont forgive then you let them keep the power over you and then you have to forgive yourself becuase you werent the one who let them do this to you..also you can find healing in talking about it the more you bring it to the light to people you know are loving and understanding the more you will be healed..I have found strength in talking to women about it that i can feel in my heart are loving and compassionate and not judging..God is the number one reason for me being a better person and surviving this happening to me if i didnt have him id preobably be dead he has healed my heart and my spirit from this event in my life im not saying i havnt had my moments were i have made bad choices i had my share of mistakes but god seem to always be there afterwards to pick up the broken pieces You are a strong women im proud of you for telling your story and also for putting that guy before a judge so that he can do it to another girl you have saved so many girls from having the same pain and hurt put on you on them you should be so Rpoud of yourself and see the strength in yourself that you did it you saved some girls from being hurt becuase now he is exposed regaurdless of how they are thinking now they are aware and thats all that matters....Keep going hun your in the right place and going in the right direction for healing :)
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I think you're a survivor too, because you are talking about it, you did go testify, and you're doing your best to move forward and reclaim your life. I believe you've already shown the integrity and courage necessary to not only survive, but to thrive.
Thank you so much for sharing your story - I hope it brings healing, not only to you, but to others as well.
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You are a survivor. You are brave. You are worthy.
You stood up and didn't let a rapist get away. You left your abuser and you're getting up every day and making it through. Healing will take time, and it never goes fully away, but it will happen in your own time. I'm sure of it.
Holding you in my heart right now.
I am amazed that you have made it through all this and are still going back to school and putting the pieces back together! You sound amazing and tough and like you've just had enough and aren't going to take it anymore. Good for you and good luck with the rest of your journey.
Oh, the trial, to have to relive the rape, and be torn apart - again. I can't imagine.
You're strong and deserve peace.
Every now and then I will read a story here that will make me want to drop absolutely everything in my life and run to the side of the person telling it. I want so desperately to be sitting across a table from you, looking into your eyes, reaching for your hand, telling you that you are never alone as you feel, because I am here to support and cheer you on. Would that I were there to envelop you in an embrace and tell you what a remarkable woman you are, because you have remembered parts of yourself ("...I am funny, I love to dance and I understand people deeply...") that others might have robbed had they been allowed. That in and of itself is an amaaaaaazing thing!
I’m a kind person; I don’t hurt others. And I don’t understand why it seems so easy for them to hurt me.
Because they are broken and wrong, plain and simple. That's not yours to own, so please don't be tempted to, even for one second.
Thank you for sharing your journey and your struggle with us. As others have said (and said much better) you are amazing, strong and courageous. You light the way for others who struggle.
to survive is to carry on despite hardhips. you ARE a survivor. even if you don't always feel like it.
it sounds cliche, i'm sure, but perhaps you could find a support group where you live so that you can surround yourself with positive support and strength. people will tell you to get over it because they don't know how to fix our problems. they feel helpless. well, some people just suck but so it goes.
re-read all these comments here and know that you are helping someone merely by sharing your story. your courage to leave an abusive situation just might save another person's life or sanity or pride.
you have done good. you are strong. and we support you.
and i never expect people to get over such things. but you can learn to live with it in such a way that you wake up every morning smiling. i promise.
You are so brave to go through with the trial, and to take control of your life the way you are doing. Feeling lost doesn't mean you HAVE lost - it just means you haven't arrived yet.
Thinking of you, and holding you in the light.
Wow, you know what? You described your feelings beautifully. Please don't feel like you are alone. I don't like to tell people that I know exactly how they feel...because I think that can hurt people in a way, and no one really knows how anyone else feels, but I'm willing to say I feel an awfully lot like you described. I love that you won't let the rapist or the abusive husband own anymore of you than they already took. You are already stronger than me. You went to court, you fought back. I know what it is like to smile on the outside for your friends and family because that's what they want to see, they NEED to see that you are doing better, but on the inside you are dying..I've been there. You are so strong, so awesome, so capable. Don't be hard on yourself that the trial sent you reeling...trials are incredibly rough and you showed remarkable braveness. Put out of your head anything the defense said, attacking the victim's personal life or trying to blame her for being raped is cowardly. You didn't deserve to be raped. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be safe. You deserve to have trustworthy friends in your life who will love you and not judge you. I had a roommate after I was raped who told me to "get over it." She didn't understand why I was barely functioning months after the rape. Wouldn't she have been surprised to learn that even years later I have trouble functioning some days? Sometimes people suck when you tell them you were hurt. I finally learned that I didn't have to keep it a dark, dirty secret, locked away. Instead, I needed to make people earn my trust before I shared myself with them.
You know, you're going to be okay. And I don't mean that in the dismissive way that people sometimes do. Yes, it is hard, and there is no pressure. Always remember to take care of yourself..we have a tendency to punish ourselves, make poor choices, maybe drink too much, sabatoge things because we don't feel we deserve happiness or success. Make sure that you are gentle with yourself, because you deserve it. You are moving forward, you are being courageous and telling others what happened to you, even when it is too painful to speak about, you are going on with college, with life. I am proud of you. You should be proud of yourself. You are triumphant. It doesn't come easily and it really, really hurts sometimes, but it doesn't mean that you have lost. You have won, darling. You have won.
I, too, am always amazed at how willing people are to damage one another and how vigorously they go about it. Your post is like every other in that respect.
You’re wrong though about the hope. If there were no hope, you’d just quit. Quitting is easy. It’s the getting up every day, the going, the working , the doing – and eventually, the confronting the sh*t head-on and the walking away stronger for it -- that's hard. It sounds at least like that is the path you’re on.
You’ll no doubt have more confronting to do, but hey, you’ve DONE that already. You can do it again and keep on doing it until you work your way past it.
I don’t think it ever completely goes away. I’m not sure that it can. But one thing I am sure of: It does get better. Really.
Scar tissue forms and then begins to fade. The burden gets lighter. The flashbacks come less often. Until you get to the place where it no longer holds any power over you. I hope the journey to that point is quick and that the painful moments along the way are fleeting.
I don't know you but I love you and I hold you as my sister. Your courage and strength make me proud and your pain and scars make my heart bleed. You are a survivor and you are worth so much, to all of us, to the survivors, to the whole world. Please know that you are needed and loved and very incredibly worthy.
I can't agree with Mojo more. And I am always at a loss for words as to how to offer support on such a day as this. Since Mojo,said it so well, I say read him again and again.
I might add that you have just turned from survivor to overcomer. Life is difficult. But, you have proven you can survive horrible circumstances and still - despite doubts, fears, pain, confusion - make the decision to do the right thing when it comes down to it.
There is always a "higher path", the "right path", the "road less traveled." You have shown the tenacity with which that road...and the rewards that come with it...is found and navigated.
I admire you so much for telling your story I cannot put it in words. You have just become free. Take your freedom. Live in it. Despite what you feel from moment to moment moving forward from today.
I see a precious jewel, a diamond. Blessings to you, today, especially...and every day moving forward.
When you say "his story has so little hope in it", I'm afraid I must respectfully disagree.
The fact that you told it, that you owned it and did not allow it to keep you silent, that is the very essence of hope. I see so.much.hope in your words, so much strength. I see a woman who has every excuse to give up, to lie down and die, to abandon hope and yet who refuses to do that.
I see a courageous, compassionate, giving person who has not only overcome all the odds, but has laid her deepest darkest, ugliest fears on the altar of the greater good, knowing that someone else somewhere else will read her life story in those words.
I see the embodiment of empowerment, of beauty, and good and worth.
I see a survivor.
Good for you. I know it doesn't make what you've been through easier, but you are awesome and a survivor, truly. You've stood up for yourself, you've been to court...you are great! Thanks for sharing your story.
you are so so brave to put this out there. you can get through this. you must do it for yourself, dear one.
I am so sorry that these terrible things happened to you. Thank you for sharing this with us. You'll be in my prayers.
of course you're a survivor...
and kudos to you for being brave enough- not only to put your story out there, but to have left your abuser, and go to court against your rapist.
you're a very strong woman.