Comments on: Survivor reaches out to stranger

By: T

Thu, 20 May 2010 21:23:19 +0000

While I have been in a similar situation that this girl was in many times before, I have found that someone ignoring what was going on can make you feel even more belittled. Knowing that people-strangers, were witnessing what was going on and not doing anything about it, made it feel more deserved. Any recognition you could give her to make her feel as if she deserved better was a great gift. You did a wonderful thing.

By: JD

JD — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 10:34:30 +0000

After reading this post, I went and looked up the Women’s Refuge number for my area, and entered it in my phone’s address book. Just in case I ever have to do what you just did. Thank you, too, for pointing out that the man would likely have taken it out on the lady later if you had been direct – that is the route I would probably have taken if I hadn’t read this.

I have never experienced real abuse, nothing like anything on this site, but once I stumbled across this site I found that I feel a sort of duty to read these stories, to acknowledge what has happened to others. I will never let these things happen to me. I will never turn aside when I see it happen to others.

And for giving me that sight and courage, I thank you.

By: Wednesday Q&A: With warning signs so subtle and disguised, how do I see them and what am I looking for? : Violence UnSilenced

Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:06:59 +0000

[...] for this question. It reminds me of this recent post, in which the writer describes reaching out to a stranger after witnessing a verbally abusive [...]

By: sam {temptingmama}

sam {temptingmama} — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:32:48 +0000

Congratulations to you for having the strength to do this for someone. I don’t know that I have had the courage to approach someone like that.

*hugs*

You did a really great thing.

By: Indigo

Indigo — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:03:18 +0000

You did the right thing. In the end handing her that piece of paper was something more than you could ever know. That’s how it happened for me, A friend handed me a piece of paper with the local domestic shelter’s phone #. I held on to that single scrap of paper in the palm of my hand through the beating that came later, it was still in my hand the next morning when I called for help.

It would be another year before I left my abuser for good. But that call was the beginning to getting me closer to stepping outside the door of my abuse. These days I keep the number on multiple slips of paper in my own purse. For that day and chance I pass it on to someone else.

Thank you for this! (Hugs)Indigo

By: Pseudo

Pseudo — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:10:34 +0000

You did such a good thing. And I hope she calls that number.

By: Barb

Barb — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 19:01:09 +0000

What you have done for this woman is awesome. One of the worst things that happens to us in these relationships is that we lose the sense of knowing something is wrong – we are confused, by the abuser who insists nothing is wrong, or we’re the ones who are crazy. When someone steps in and says “this is not right,” suddenly we can hear ourselves a little better. She may call right away, or not for a while, but she knows NOW that someone out there, someone objective, sees that something is wrong. That is a big piece of the puzzle.

By: dianed

dianed — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:24:06 +0000

I just want to say thank you. Thank you because I wish someone had reached out to me that way. I don’t know if I would have done anything if anyone had ever reached out. But just knowing that someone knew, someone cared, would have made a world of difference. So I thank you.

By: Ashlie- Mommycosm

Ashlie- Mommycosm — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 12:28:05 +0000

That takes courage to tactfully step in. So many others would have just walked away – some judging, others just feeling helpless and afraid of making a bad situation worse.

I hope she uses the number.

By: TigereyeSal

TigereyeSal — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:05:19 +0000

Maybe we’ve read, or will read, her story on this site.